Abusive Relationship Therapy

Abusive relationship therapy

When we are in an abusive relationship, there can be profound consequences on our mental health. It feels as though we’ve lost all sense of self. Even when the relationship is over, we can still feel scared, nervous and trapped. We believe that everything is our fault. 

Abusive relationship therapy provides a safe, welcoming space where you will be heard, believed, acknowledged and understood. 

In an abusive relationship, you are not to blame

 This is not your fault. The counsellor will gently help you come to terms with what’s happened, and how the relationship may have affected you. Together, you will work towards coming out the other side with strength and resilience, and with the confidence to find happiness again.

 If you feel ready to get in touch, please do so here.

What is an abusive relationship?

Abusive relationships can make us feel frightened, threatened, controlled, trapped, isolated and belittled. These relationships don’t necessarily involve violence, although the threat of violence may be present.  

Abuse can happen in any relationship – parent-child, siblings, work colleagues, same-sex and heterosexual relationships. 

It often happens gradually, slowly eroding our confidence until we no longer know what a healthy relationship feels like. Rather than accepting who we are, we struggle to become the person we feel we should be. 

The abuse is not down to you. The fault lies squarely with the person who felt, or still feels, entitled to abuse you. However, that does not make the experience any less damaging.

How can counselling help?

The aim of counselling is to help you take charge of your life, and maintain that independence as you move forward. It can strengthen your relationship with you. The sessions may help shed light and understanding on your thoughts and feelings, motivations, needs, desires and actions. You can discover where they came from.

With the counsellor’s calm guidance, you’ll explore the thought and behaviour patterns that serve you, and those which do not. You aim to eliminate unhelpful, restrictive thoughts and focus on living the life you choose. During the process, you’ll look for useful everyday tools to keep you on track when it comes to forming new relationships, should you wish to do so.

In effect, counselling can help provide a roadmap for future happiness. 
When you feel ready, you will be welcomed with respect. You can get in touch here.

Abusive Relationship Therapy FAQs

How long will it take to feel better?

Counselling usually lasts for between 12 and 18 sessions, but that’s just a rough guide. Your therapy and recovery will be unique to you. 


It’s possible that you’ll see improvement faster than expected, although keep in mind that during the sessions, new issues can come up – angles that you weren’t aware of and want to explore. 


There will be challenges. There may be times when everything feels too difficult. When it gets tough, your therapist will be there for you, gently guiding you through the rough patches and out the other side. 

What happens in a counselling session?

Each session lasts 50 minutes, and you will be encouraged to talk freely about anything.

Our therapist is highly trained in listening and reflecting skills. This is a protected place to reveal thoughts, emotions and issues that can’t be aired elsewhere.

Find out more about how counselling works. 

Are counselling sessions confidential?

Yes, the sessions at Crysalis Therapy Clinic are confidential. Nothing you say will be revealed to anyone else.

Is the therapist qualified?

Yes. Our therapist has a Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling and has had 5 years of training in Transactional Analysis (TA) counselling. 

She is a registered member of the following:

  • United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP)
  • United Kingdom Association for Transactional Analysis (UKATA)
  • European Association for Transactional Analysis (EATA)
How much does counselling cost?

It costs £50 for a 50-minute session. 

Are all sessions face-to-face? Can I have counselling on video or phone?

Yes. You can attend the sessions in any way that suits you. It could be face-to-face, on video or on the phone.

Perhaps surprisingly, phone and video counselling create no barriers. In fact, some people find it easier to open up when they’re in their own space at home.

It’s all about the relationship between me and the therapist. How can I be sure that we’ll get on?

At Crysalis Therapy Clinic, you’ll have an initial session to help you decide whether counselling is right for you. If it doesn’t feel right, there will be no obligation to continue.

If you like, you can book your initial session here.

Can anyone benefit from counselling?

Yes. Everyone deserves to be heard, accepted and understood. It’s a chance to develop a deep understanding of why we behave as we do, and who we really are.  

With friends and loved ones, it’s hard to admit how we’re feeling. We want to avoid upsetting them, so we pretend to be OK, even though we’re not. 

The therapist has no preconceptions and makes no assumptions. She is unbiased, non-judgemental and trained to help.   

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