Loss, Bereavement & Grief

Bereavement Counsellor

Loss and grief involve a bewildering array of painful emotions. When we lose someone or something important to us, we often lose so much else.

Our bereavement counsellor provides a safe, protective `holding’ space where you can freely express how you’re feeling right now.

There will be no judgement, no one telling you how you should feel and when. There is no right or wrong emotion. You will be heard, acknowledged and understood.

How can bereavement counselling help?

You are entitled to grieve and you will have been changed by the experience.

By working through your emotions in a non-judgemental, secure and confidential space you may gradually reach acceptance – not only for the loss, but also how you have grown and changed throughout the process.

Are you ready to get in touch? You can do so here.

The process of grieving – the myths

When it comes to grief, there is no `standard’ process and no rules. We can’t help how we feel, and it cannot be hurried.

You may have heard about the 5 stages of grief – denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. While they may help frame our feelings, the 5 stages are not linear tick-boxes to recovery.

In fact, the thinking behind these 5 stages is often misunderstood. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross developed it for patients coming to terms with terminal illness – not for their bereaved loved ones.

Grief is messy

The grieving process is messy and disorganised. Right now, your emotions may be jumping about all over the place – from numbness to extreme pain, a wash of relief followed by paralysing guilt. Regret, yearning, resentment, deep sadness, despair, confusion…

Each emotion is perfectly normal. They are unique to you, as is your relationship with who or what you have lost. The grief is entirely your own, there is no right or wrong way to do it.

Just by reading this, you have made a positive step forward. When you’re ready to get in touch, please do so here.

Loss, Bereavement & Grief FAQs

How long will it take before I feel better?

Everyone’s recovery is their own, but with help, it’s possible that you’ll see improvement faster than expected. 

Counselling usually lasts for between 12 and 18 sessions, but that’s just a rough guide. Your therapy and recovery will be unique to you. Keep in mind that grief can be a messy and disorganised process. It cannot be hurried.  

During the sessions, new issues may come up – angles that you weren’t aware of and want to explore. 

There may be challenges – times when everything feels too difficult. When it gets tough, your therapist will be there for you, gently guiding you through the rough patches and out the other side.  

What happens in a counselling session?

Each session lasts 50 minutes, and you will be encouraged to talk freely about anything.

Our therapist is highly trained in listening and reflecting skills. This is a protected place to reveal thoughts, emotions and issues that can’t be aired elsewhere.

Find out more about how counselling works. 

Are counselling sessions confidential?

Yes, the sessions at Crysalis Therapy Clinic are confidential. Nothing you say will be revealed to anyone else.

Is the therapist qualified?

Yes. Our therapist has a Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling and has had 5 years of training in Transactional Analysis (TA) counselling. 

She is a registered member of the following:

  • United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP)
  • United Kingdom Association for Transactional Analysis (UKATA)
  • European Association for Transactional Analysis (EATA)
How much does counselling cost?

It costs £50 for a 50-minute session. 

Are all sessions face-to-face? Can I have counselling on video or phone?

Yes. You can attend the sessions in any way that suits you. It could be face-to-face, on video or on the phone.

Perhaps surprisingly, phone and video counselling create no barriers. In fact, some people find it easier to open up when they’re in their own space at home.

It’s all about the relationship between me and the therapist. How can I be sure that we’ll get on?

At Crysalis Therapy Clinic, you’ll have an initial session to help you decide whether counselling is right for you. If it doesn’t feel right, there will be no obligation to continue.

If you like, you can book your initial session here.

Can anyone benefit from counselling?

Yes. Everyone deserves to be heard, accepted and understood. It’s a chance to develop a deep understanding of why we behave as we do, and who we really are.  

With friends and loved ones, it’s hard to admit how we’re feeling. We want to avoid upsetting them, so we pretend to be OK, even though we’re not. 

The therapist has no preconceptions and makes no assumptions. She is unbiased, non-judgemental and trained to help.   

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